Love Is Love Says Maryland, But Many Disagree

The date: Friday, February 17. The location: Annapolis, Maryland, where the House of Delegates managed to gain enough votes in favor of a measure legalizing gay marriage in the state to pass it.  People were ecstatic-~-because here was progress.  Here was recognition that love is love is love…but unfortunately, in America today, love isn’t just love.  Because our country could never make things that simple.

Earlier this week, residents of New Jersey faced similar hope, but with one difference: Chris Christie is so openly anti-gay marriage that the veto was expected.  And Governor Christie sadly did not disappoint: shortly after Annapolis got the news that gay marriage is hopefully on its way to being legalized in the state of Maryland (pending the governor’s signature but since he’s a pretty open supporter of gay marriage no one is too concerned here), the news broke that gay marriage in New Jersey was in fact shot down by the executive.

At present, six states and the District of Columbia recognize gay marriage (and as a DC/New York resident I’m pretty proud that both of those places have it legalized-~-woo!).  But thirty states have moved to add constitutional amendments that would ban gay marriage by defining marriage as between a man and a woman.  I’m not sure people realize how difficult it is to repeal a constitutional amendment but in the case of the US constitution, it has only been done once.  That’s a pretty serious commitment to denying some Americans their sexual citizenship on the part of states like North Carolina and others who have proposed constitutional bans on same-sex marriage.

The problem is that in America, religious organizations hold the ability to influence voters and to advocate for agendas that stand in strong opposition to principles like equality in marriage or a woman’s right to choose.  What is interesting, however, is that these principles only impact women who actually choose, or same-sex couples who want to get married-~-and they DON’T impact the groups that are managing to fight against them.

If you don’t like gay marriage, don’t get gay married.  But as Anne Hathaway so rightly said, “Love is a human experience, not a political statement”.  Our politicians need to stop treating marriage as though it is a heterosexual privilege-~-because when you deny these kinds of rights to a portion of the population, you’re actively preventing a particular demographic from accessing their full sexual citizenship and thus their full American citizenship by defining one group as worthy of these rights and another as unworthy.

I’m thrilled to see that Maryland is moving towards legalizing marriage.  Love is love, and no matter who you are or how you love, you deserve to access the same rights as everyone else.  Hopefully someday the rest of America will wake up and see this, too.




~ by Randi Saunders on February 18, 2012.

4 Responses to “Love Is Love Says Maryland, But Many Disagree”

  1. Very well written and great insights! I truly believe that Same-Sex marriage is the Civil Rights issue of my generation, and as a gay man, I am ready to take up the banner and fight for equal rights. I know that one day it will be legal in the whole country, because nothing and no one ever stands in the way of progress, equality, and justice!

    • I completely agree that this is the Civil Rights issue of our generation–and I really do hope you are correct. Homophobia, like racism, is often born of ignorance I truly believe that can be overcome if people are willing to keep fighting. I am and always have been proud to stand with the LGBTQ community in their fight for fair treatment.

  2. Very interesting details you have noted, appreciate it for posting.

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